From Maiden to Mother

MY JOURNEY FROM MAIDEN TO MOTHER IS FULL OF TWISTS AND TURNS, HIGHS AND LOWS, TRIUMPHS AND TRAGEDIES, JUST LIKE MANY OTHER WOMEN'S JOURNEYS INTO MOTHERHOOD. HOW WE ALL END UP HERE IS DIFFERENT, BUT ONCE WE ARE HERE WE REACH A PLACE OF RESONANCE AND UNITY: WE ARE MOTHERS. MOTHERS IN WHATEVER VARIATION AND CAPACITY SERVES US AND OUR TRIBE...

 

How do we define mother? If we take every aspect of mother into consideration, it seems nearly impossible. The dictionary defines mother as both a noun, and a verb:

mother |ˈməT͟Hər|

noun

1 a woman in relation to a child or children to whom she has given birth.

verb [ with obj. ]

1 (often as noun mothering) bring up (a child) with care and affection: the art of mothering.• look after kindly and protectively, sometimes excessively so: she felt mothered by her older sister.

2 dated give birth to.

 

At which point do we become a mother? Is it solely after birth, or is it a fit title before our child’s grand debut?

I’m not sure where along my journey I became mother. Perhaps it was very slowly over time, almost unnoticeable amongst the day-to-day. For some women, the vitalizing mother comes during pregnancy, during nursing their young, during the miracle of change in oneself as one raises a child, or during attending to a love relationship. I have friends and clients that can pinpoint the exact moment they transitioned into mother. This speaks to the variety of experiences we can endure. 

One thing is certain: the transformation from maiden to mother is absolutely mind-blowing, life changing, beautiful, raw, natural, and most importantly wild. 

When women reassert their relationship with wild nature, they are gifted with a permanent and internal watcher, a knower, a visionary, an oracle, an inspiratrice, an intuitive, a maker, a creator, an inventor, and a listener who guides, suggests, and urges vibrant life in the inner and outer worlds. When women are in touch with their wild nature during their transformation, the fact of that relationship glows through them. This wild teacher, wild mother, wild mentor supports their inner and outer lives, no matter what. The word wild here is not used in its moderne pejorative sense, meaning out of control, but in its original sense, which means to live a natural life, with innate integrity and healthy boundaries. These words, wild and women, cause women to remember who they are and what they are about. They create a metaphor to describe the force which funds all females. They personify a force that women cannot live without. This relationship or state of being is of the utmost importance during preconception through postpartum.

The terrain of the woman should be in its most optimal state for a new life to be conceived, flourish, and grow. I have found that the best way to accomplish this is through connecting with oneself, healing the mind, nourishing the body through diet and exercise, supplementing in the areas where we need additional support, resting and rejuvenating through sleep and self-care, tending to important relationships and assembling our tribe, and lastly connecting with nature. 

Having a portal, or a guide to help shine a light along this transformation is very helpful and is the basis or backbone to Motherhood Medicine. Each woman’s experience will be unique and different, and what they require or need assistance with will vary greatly. This platform will share stories, guides, tutorials, education, recipes for nourishment, reviews of products and services, and suggestions for ways of connecting with the self. 

Take what you need, and leave what you don’t, but most importantly enjoy.